Online Affairs

It is becoming more and more common for people to register for dating websites. Trouble is, some of them are already in a committed relationship!

online affair

Online affairs almost always start off out of curiosity or boredom. One sees an advertisement on a website and after a few clicks, begins to explore the possibilities in their minds: Maybe I’ll use a fake profile; or I’ll just exchange a few harmless emails. 

Before you know it, he or she is now signed up as a member on the dating website. It’s a bit like gambling, where it starts off almost in amusement; before the person is sucked into the vortex, by the thrill and excitement of something new and dangerous.

Now you might ask, why doesn’t everyone in a relationship with a smart phone sign up for these sites? The simple answer is that they are in happy relationships. In my experience with many couples in the last year, I’ve learned that if there is dissatisfaction in the relationship, that is usually a key trigger to exploring these websites. It could be poor communication, dissatisfaction with their sex life, or just overall unhappiness in the relationship.

A Slippery Slope

One thing to note of is that these people are not looking to cheat on their partners. What starts off as curiosity slips very quickly into something he or she could regret (of course there are those who are looking for a quick affair, but such people often use other more direct ways of finding another party).

recovering from an online affairIf you or your partner have fallen victim to an online affair, you both need to seek relationship counselling from a qualified psychologist. This is the best avenue for you both to work through the affair and to process the hurt, guilt and pain that results.

It is very probable that there is underlying dissatisfaction in your relationship and working through those issues can strengthen your relationship, so that not only does this not occur again, but you will become happier in your relationship in the long term.

Joey-Tai PsychologistAuthor: Joey Tai, BA (Psych) Hons, Master of Clinical Psychology.

Joey Tai is a Clinical Psychologist with a special interest in couples counseling,having undertaken research into couples’ attraction at Masters level. Sessions with him are open and warm – he believes that one of the keys to success in therapy is feeling comfortable with the therapist.

Please call 1800 877 924 to make an appointment or book Joey Tai online today.