Do you have a Narcissistic Partner?

narcissistic partner

Narcissistic personality disorder is known to affect approximately 1% of the population. That’s right, there’s a 1 in 100 chance that you know of someone who has this personality type.

Most of us might choose to avoid people with Narcissistic personalities, simply because interacting with them can be so difficult.

However, there is a chance that a Narcissistic individual might exist in your close circle of friends, family or workplace. Or it could even be the person you’ve married!

Signs of a Narcissistic Partner

Here are a few tell-tale signs that might indicate you have a narcissistic partner:

  • An expectation of being seen as superior and admirable;
  • Inability to empathise with others;
  • Arrogant and disparaging to others;
  • Never believes he/she is wrong;
  • Exaggerating his/her success;
  • Unable to identify other’s feelings and emotions;
  • Overly sensitive to criticism; easily hurt as a result.

The term Narcissistic is originally derived from the mythical character Narcissus, who saw his own reflection in the river and fell in love with himself as a result. He was fixated on himself and his own beauty and thus was unable to have any meaningful relationships with anyone else.

People who have Narcissistic personality disorders are similar – they have a preoccupation with themselves and their focus is on maintaining their perfect perception of themselves. This is of course, highly dysfunctional and unrealistic and in turn, will impact anyone who tries to start or maintain a relationship with them.

If you have a narcissistic partner, it can be very frustrating and emotionally exhausting. Not surprisingly, you might feel incredibly discouraged from the constant put-downs, or frustrated because they never believe they are wrong. You might feel helpless and powerless as it seems like nothing you can do will change them. Although you love them, their inability to notice or empathise with your feelings makes it difficult for you have emotional intimacy with them.

Having a narcissistic partner can be tiring and over time, cause you great anxiety or depression.

If you have been reading through this and nodding knowingly throughout, it is strongly recommended that you see a psychologist to help you through the resultant emotions that come from your difficult interactions.

Seeing a psychologist does not mean that there is something wrong with you – rather it is for your support. A trained psychologist is able to help you understand more about the underlying factors which cause someone to have this personality type, as well as help you with achieving a loving and satisfying relationship with your narcissistic partner.

The psychologist can also help you to work through and process some of the painful experiences and emotions that you have no doubt endured throughout your relationship. Your emotional and mental health is very important – do not delay in seeking some help in this area!

Joey Tai PsychologistAuthor: Joey Tai, BA (Psych), Master of Clinical Psychology.

Joey Tai is a Clinical Psychologist who has extensive knowledge in the area of Narcissistic Personality Disorder – one of the diagnoses which a majority of psychologists regularly avoid treating. He has a keen interest in working with people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, or with supporting those who are living with or having to interact with such an individual on a regular basis.

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